Am I Being So Strong That I Push Him Away?

To be strong in this day and age as a woman is a major plus in the book to many guys who are being faced with many diverse challenges and seeking some comfort.

Yet many women who have found themselves constantly single are now asking the question,
"Am I Being too Strong?".

Many will even go on to add that they feel in some ways that their "strength" is pushing away a lot of potential partners.

Nothing is wrong ladies with being strong, classy, confident, and intelligent.

Strength is an excellent attribute for the right man because as his help-mate you will need to be able to be his support and back bone when difficult challenges arrive in the marriage or family.

Where many women mess up at in the area of proving their strength is that you have to know how to display your strength in a way that does not send the signal that, you do not "need" a man. A man wants to be needed by any woman he chooses to place in his life or give his last name to. Society has sadly pushed the idea of "in-dependency" to the point that it has made women who truly desire a male partner, to appear to not even want a man. In other words your attitude displays the "I don't need you" type of attitude which is a turn off for the right partner.

When you develop this personality over a period of time it soon becomes you. It makes it difficult for you to be loved because you automatically push men away from you even at times without notice, naturally.

 Any person born on this earth unless they came in with a twin is born "independent". However you still needed that nurturing of your mother in order to grow and survive. We as women were not created to be alone. We were not meant to be raising our children alone. You were not naturally designed to even create a life alone. So when you say that I am independent and I don't need a man, you are setting yourself up for a life of loneliness.

You get whatever you sow out into the world.


Am I being so strong & independent that I 'm pushing him away?

You can very well be because a man likes to feel as if he is in some form of control which is only his natural born instincts. A man wants to feel as if my wife or the woman in my life can relax, trust, and know that he is her protector and provider. There is a time and place for those "strong" moments that you display on a regular.

Being strong is knowing also how to humble yourselves and be submissive to your husband biblically as he follows his head whom is God.  Being strong can be displayed in many ways and does not always mean you need to yell and flex all the muscles in your body and neck to show him who you are.

Being strong can simply mean being quiet. You do not always have to make your point known to him, because it can simply be shown without being said.

Music and the media has such a negative impact on women today and many have fallen trap into taking on the identity of those characters that they see displayed. Being submissive is now deemed something negative. It is now the goal of every woman to prove to every man she meets that she can do it all by herself which sadly results in just that; her doing things alone because she reflects she doesn't need the help. The more she finds herself doing things alone, it eventually creates a space of bitterness within her. That bitter spot soon is reflected on any and every potential guy seeking to be part of her life and results in back to back let downs and failed relations.

Some women will state that being silent or submissive is a sign of weakness. They do not want to feel they need to bow down or "dumb" down their intelligence just to attract or have a man.

Being submissive and silent is not a sign of weakness. It is very powerful.

If I am in a field running around yelling and screaming then my predator can easily locate me and conquer me. Yet if I am in a field and I am silent then my predator can not find me nor discover my weakness, therefore I am difficult to defeat. 

When you are humble it does not mean that you are "dumbing down" your intelligence because the right man can appreciate a woman who can knowledgeably speak on any subject matter when the opportunity presents itself. He can also admire a woman who knows when to be silent when the moment calls for it and does not present herself out to be a wild thing any and everywhere they go. Always carrying the mindset or feeling the need to get her point across. That is a turn off for many men.

Change up the way you display your strength and you will find yourself attracting partners who will gladly stay around and look forward to learning more about you.

It is not what you say, its how you display.
                   Be gentle, swift to speak, and slow to listen.
Men need soft, delicate creations to come home to after the stress of the world.

      Don't be so tough and rough inside & out that he can't hold you or get next to you.