Everybody is Not Your Friend

There is nothing like having a close friend who you can call on in time of need. That friend you can sit and talk to about anything for hours in a day. Sometimes we are going through things and we just need someone to talk to and we may find ourselves confiding in anyone who shows some interest in what we have to say, but let me remind you that everyone is not your friend nor in support of all your dreams.

The problem with alot of people is we are quick to open up and tell all our business to a listening ear when we are mad and upset or when we are depressed. My advice is when you feel that desperate to talk about a problem, see a counselor or simply do what has worked best for alot of people for years & centuries....write it in a journal or diary.

Do be fooled, a fake friend will come off as someone you can trust because they are in agreement with everything you say & do. No matter what you tell them, they are on your side 100% and nothing is wrong with your decision and you are 1000% right.

Sounds to good to be true doesnt it.

I often look at a true friend as someone who will admit when I am wrong and stand up for me when I am right. A true friend has a good intention behind every action that set out before you. You may have heard of the saying, Friends dont hurt Friends, which is true.

Now is this to say, your best friend for life will never do anything to upset you and that you will have thee most perfect friendship ever? No. We all make mistakes but a true friend will acknowledge when they are wrong if they desire to keep that bond with you.

When we meet people for the first time and we dont know anything about them, you should put them on a 90 day probabtion period so you can learn and observe them more before you just jump up and call them your friend. At this stage they are just merely associates, meaning someone I socialize with from time to time when I see them.

Associates can be a church member, a co-worker, a classmate or even your neighbor.

People began opening up way to soon about their personal life before they get the chance to know the person. Then when you find out parts of your business scattered everywhere then instantly you are mad and ready to throw a fit. This is because you thought these people or this person was your friend.

Stop! Stop! Stop!
Being so quick to expose your business to complete strangers.
Then you wonder why they looking at you strange.

Oh and the biggest friend that alot of people have suddenly taken interest to confiding in is....FACEBOOK!

Stop posting all your personal business on facebook...but thats another topic, you get my drift by now.

A friendship is like a seed planted in the ground, it takes time, it doesnt blossom overnight, so dont jump up claiming you guys are instant best friends, next thing you know they all in your house & your car and they know all your business.....nothing but a death trap...setting yourself up to be hurt.

Be wise in all your decisions so they dont bite you in the rear later.