Have we all not at some point desired the approval of others?
Why yes we have because it is in the human nature to desire acceptance among mankind. As little children we desired approval from our parents, so we rushed home from school excited to tell them about the good grades we received and how awesome all your friends thought you were. In our teenage life we sought the approval and acceptance by others at school because of course nobody wanted to be the kid eating lunch alone. In our adult life we strive to meet the approval of our boss or supervisor in hope they will notice us so that we can obtain that higher pay or position we have so patiently been seeking.
Here is the thing. No matter what you do in life, you will not please everybody. There will be some handfuls of people that you will venture across that you can bend over backwards for and they will simply give you no sign of acceptance. You have to learn how to create your own happiness by finding acceptance only within yourself. When you learn how to accept you for who you are then it will not matter who else does not accept you. To accept yourself makes room for others to accept and respect who you are. When you constantly go around asking others what they think about you? What do they feel about you? Then you create an image that you do not know anything about yourself so now the signal comes across to them as this is a person who has no confidence in themselves and seeks to please the world.
Stop trying to please the world and just seek to please yourself. When you do things that make you happy, the world around you becomes happy. Yet when you find yourself seeking to please others then you will always fail and you will always find yourself not gaining the approval you truly desire. The only being that I seek to please is God, not man.
Men you spend time talking to your guy friends about a girl that you like and you want to know how they feel you should handle the situation with her. Often times that guy could be giving you the wrong ideas for responding to the female because he simply wants you to mess things up with her in hope that he will have a shot at her. This is not always the case but when it comes to a woman that you are interested in men, this is a time to think for yourself and make a decision of the heart. You do not need nobody to tell you how to live and operate your every thought and move in life. You are not an object on a Chess board.
Let me also speak on another issue that I see which affects people so heavily. Many of us want to have the approval or acceptance of our family. We want them to be happy when we are happy. We want them to celebrate when we celebrate. Yet this may not always be the case because everyone will not be happy with you or for you because they are not happy with themselves or in their own life. There are some who say they want to see you happy but in all honesty there is a limit on that happiness and it says "I am happy for you as long as you are not doing better than me".
This is why when it comes to family or even close friends you have to be careful seeking their approval in your life or seeking to please their eyes because they have limits set for how far that happiness will go with you.