"Sorry But I'll Wait" [Issue 1]

So you have been waiting.
Waiting patiently to meet the person that life says is "The One".
I know it has been quite a stressful journey because you have found yourself experiencing countless dates with those who have not turned out to be who you thought they were.
I mean you're basically yelling at the heavens to give you a break because you are tired of all the crazy experiences that have sadly left you looking at the clock and wondering will you ever meet, "The One".

You have asked your closes friends and family members if you are doing something wrong or even if you should simply give up on the entire thought of true love and accept the single life. I can relate with you. I feel your pain. I know the agony of being disappointed over and over again.

So you hold your head up and despite how many times you have been hurt, you find yourself keeping your wall down and trying to give someone a suitable chance because you don't want to be hard on them because of your past experiences. Each time you go out and you are yourself. You are the loving and understanding person that you were born to be. The person is amazed out how "normal" you are. They say things like, "You are rare", "I've never met anyone like you before". Your heart leaps because you think that just maybe the search is over and that for once in this life, a person exists who understands you.

Yet eventually the calls stop. The sweet text messages vanish. Suddenly they are occupied or not available. You wonder if you did something wrong because remember all you did was be the nice calm person that you know to be.

Let me help you out.

It's not that you are a bad person. It's just that often the people you date or give time to are not looking for the same things you are looking for at your current point in life. Let me be real and say that some people are simply amazing actors and liars. They will say and do all the right things to achieve what ever it is they seek from you and then vanish without any explanation.

Those unanswered explanations haunt you daily because nobody is telling you why they are leaving despite all the great things they said about you.

You really have to take a step back and free yourself from those past let downs and not hold yourself captive to another persons actions. So he left your for a loose woman despite saying he was looking for somebody to settle down with. Often ladies you have to dig a bit to find out real answers. When he stated that he wanted to settle down...you have to wonder what type of woman was he looking to settle down with. So men she said she wanted a good man but you have to ask questions to find out what exactly she considers a good man.

Failure to ask questions leads to a lot of wasted time and repetitive behavior of hurt.

Don't be in such a rush to settle down with someone that you forget to ask questions. Those questions will help you figure out more than you think.

So I know you are ready to throw in the towel. You are tired of praying for "The One" but you have to trust God and not your own  self instincts. Our bodies can be tricky and often we make decisions off of our mood and not off of facts.

Your mood says I'm tired of waiting and being lonely. So you make a life long decision that you might regret later.
Maybe you think those ex's that are popping back up might be the one. Keep in mind that an ex is an

ex for a reason because anyone destined to be in your life will stay.

Love takes time. It doesn't happen in 90 days. Remember Cinderella went through a lot before she eventually met her Prince Charming and guess where she found him...in the woods.

Your woods may be this rough moment you are experiencing where you are ready to quit. Keep singing, keep staying joyful and you just might bump into the love of your life.
I promise the wait would have been very well worth it.