Men can be hard to figure out at times. I mean we pretty much can see the surface of them like the fact that he is a hard worker, pays his bills and keeps himself up. Yet the confusion comes in when we try to figure him out. Every woman wants to know the guy she is seriously considering a relationship with.
So what is he thinking?
Well after talking to a few guys, many stated that they are hardly ever thinking to deep on the common issues that we as women tend to overthink.
When it comes to intimacy. You’ve heard it before: Women need a reason to have sex. Majority of the time women have sex for a purpose. Men just need a place that’s it, its no hidden agenda they just do it! The other difference is that women use sex as a way to show the guy how she feels about him. Its her sacred gift to him. However with men...sex is sex and he may not feel as sentimental about the ordeal as she does which can lead to confusion. Men don't use sex as a way to tap into their inner emotions. So while you may be falling in love and planning a future in the bedroom...he is probably just excited about how well the performance is and then its night night for him. Mind you this is by no means every males view on sex. We do know some guys who get emotionally attached afterwards.
Here are some responses from a few guys who shared some views on things women constantly wonder about.
"Thoughts after sex on the first night:
Well, that's a tricky one. It really depends on our perception of her before and how she acts after. Sex on the first night isn't as big a deal breaker as ppl think. "
"Do looks and shape really matter?
Only to a completely shallow person and even then if you really like someone it only matters in the beginning. Of course everybody is attracted to certain things. But attraction is what draws you to someone, their personality is what keeps someone around. Even tho a lot of men claim to only wife dimes and "bad b*tches".
"Why we hesitate before we let a woman meet our mom?
Cause that sh*t is a huge deal! Majority of black men are raised by single mothers so her approval is EVERYTHING! A lot of times if we bring a woman around our mom and mom likes her it's over for any other woman! Even if we break up she is still gonna ask about her. Moms get attached if they feel somebody is good for their son."
"As far as a mans thought when dating more than one woman, there's usually one that he wants and the rest are just there to pass the time." -A. Reed
"Women who sleep on the 1st date is not considered a hoe by me....in fact, I honestly slept with the girl Im currently with and I love her soooo much...I wanna marry her!" - J. Fields
"I hesitate to introduce women to my mother because I don't want her meeting every woman I encounter...I never want my mom thinking I'm promiscuous even though Im a man." -J.Fields
"If the sex is bomb the first night we rocking, no problem with meeting mom duke, size and shape don't matter....size and shape is cosmetics the gym can handle that then you got a winner !!!! She just have to be down.....no loser"- C.D.G
"What am I really thinking when she sleeps with me on the first night? She just likes me like that.
What goes through my mind after an intimate moment? Honestly? Not too much. I'm just glad she enjoyed herself.
Why would I hesitate with taking her home to meet my mom? At this point, only My Wife gets to meet my mother. If I feel that's you, you can meet her."
- B. Johnson
"Comfort is another incredibly important thing to us men, and I can confidently say that comfort is the main reason why most men STAY in a relationship." -R. Johnson
Had a lot of feedback from the guys on this topic which tapped into a few questions that we as women often wonder about. Often times ladies its okay to just be yourself. There's a high chance that if you just be you and go with the flow, he will appreciate you more.
When it comes to commitment...He believes in marriage. Ninety percent of men listed it as a goal.
So ladies just relax. Stop overthinking every little thing because for him...it really is just a little thing. Men are simple...we as women just make things more complex. Just let things flow and don't dive in head first so fast.
Nen constantly think about ways to win attention, sex, and favor from the moat attractive sexy women that we encounter. Men refuse to accept that a beautiful woman is like an accessory, you can never have too many of them. Same way women feel about their bags shoes, bracelets etc. But every now and then, we want that special someone around that can create a home for us in our comfort zone. Thats not easy for women because we have alot flaws that maybe deal breakers for the ladies. But the issue comes when the woman loves that man. A guy thinks about why do women leave or bitch and complain to us about things we do in our comfort zone. We want to feel like we are at home around our woman and not be held to standards other women hold their men to because our relationship or we are not the same. We also wonder why we are expected to value monogamous commitment when we deal with so many of them that don't. We date and have sex with so many of you ladies that are in relationships and marriages which makes us feel that if we marry you, it will be the same with someone else. That's a snap shot of what men think about.
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