"Sorry But I'll Wait" [Issue 2]

So for those who took the time to read my first portion of this article, you are pretty much aware of my thoughts on the idea of waiting and not rushing.  The dating game is no where like it used to be because society has promoted those things that are disrespectful  to ones self as being the thing to do. Men and women are failing to be in committed relationships because nobody wants the obligations of being in anything serious. Sex has become so easy to get. So the whole idea of pursuit is just vanishing off the scene. I will admit that there are still some who believe in that old school form of love and dating. Then there are those who might as well stop lying about how they want the right person to enter their life. They really should be saying I'm looking for the right person to screw because the last screw just got old to me and I want something new to play with.

You really have to be careful with your heart these days. Be mindful of the intentions of others before you open up so quickly to them. I know you want to keep it real and not come off as being fake to them but you just can't tell everything on dates. Some doors simply should just barely be opened.

This is the link to why a lot of people experience false love because you tell it all on the first couple of dates. He or she does not need to know that you were raped and that your parents are on drugs or that your cousin Joe likes to steal your money. You will run somebody away before you even get them. Even the sweetest person will take flight at the first hint of a possibly crazy situation. So wait and take your time. Honestly those things should be cautiously presented over time.

I also want you to keep in mind that just because someone runs off does not mean it was something wrong with you. Let me say that again. Just because a person leaves you, does not mean there is something wrong with you! Maybe you expressed how much you hate cigarette smoke and this person might smoke packs daily and because they feel they now don't have a shot with you, they leave. Maybe you say you are a vegetarian and the person is not, so they move on.

You have to learn to say thank you when people walk out of your life or leave. It could be something you don't know that God is protecting you from.
We don't let strangers in our house to easily right? We even monitor the cable guy for a while when he comes in. So you definitely don't want to open the door to hasty to a stranger that you have only known for a few weeks, let along your heart.

So what, that everyone around you seems to be in a relationship. Will it last is the question you should be wondering. Do you want something that's over in a year or months? The old saying is that good things come to those who wait, therefore wait.
Cakes don't get done as soon as you put them in the oven. Take your time as you search for the right one for you.

Stop letting social media fool you to believe everything you see. Those same couples flashing smiles on social sites go to bed arguing and fussing at night. Those same couples have more reports of domestic violence than you know about. Those same couples almost killed each other the night before they took that smiling picture. You don't know if she hides black eyes behind all that make up or if he is hiding scratches across his chest under his shirt.

Looks are deceiving. You don't know what type of hell she went through just to get him to marry her. You don't know what type of hell he deals with at night when he yelling on the phone for her to please come home because she been in the streets all night.

The your time love and the next time someone reminds you that the clock is ticking...simply say "It's cool, I'll wait".

I promise there is somebody out there for you. Don't rush love!