5 Questions All Single Men Should Ask

Before you get too serious…

Is the new woman in your life a keeper or a player?

We have read over a dozen books and articles that are giving the women tips on what to ask a man or what to look for in a man that she assumes will be a potential spouse but we have yet to read up on issues to help the men out.

Just as there are bad men out there, you should also keep in mind that there are some ruthless and coldhearted females out there as well.

Men before you get too attached, lets pump those hormonal brakes and find out what she really is all about. You need to ask basic questions so that you can gain some understanding of where her head is and if she will be a potential partner for the night or for the future.



1. What are your short-term or long- term goals?   

 This question is very important because you need to know exactly what she has going for herself. How can a Queen help out the King if she has no desires to do anything greater in life. You want a woman who will build with you and bring ideas to the table. You don't want to marry a woman who has no plans for the future and just follows you around like a shadow while you make all the decisions and she is not driven enough to motivate you and your plans.



2. What are your views on relationships or marriage?

This is a great question to ask because you need to find out if she believes in things that you oppose of in a relationship/marriage. You could be getting yourself involved with a woman who believes the opposite of you and that can cause division and confusion along the way. Her idea of being loyal could simply be just coming home every night rather than the whole perception of what she does when she is outside of the home or the company she is keeping. There are so many women who are married or in a relationship that live the lives of single women. Your goal is not to look for a woman who is perfect but for a woman who is a perfect fit for you. So many believe that opposites attract but honestly there must be a common ground between the two of you. The only thing opposite may be the gender. You need to have some common goals to make it work.


3. What do you think about me?

This may seem hilarious to ask but trust me, you need to know what a woman is thinking about you just as much as she wants to know what you think about her. When you ask this question, be quiet and observe. Observe for body language and look her in the eyes when she talks or if its over the phone, then simply listen. Little sayings like "Um, what do you mean?" or short laughs could basically signal that she doesn't take you serious and you may just be fun time. The last thing you want to do is waste your time with a woman who is playing games with you and may only be interested in your finances more than she is into you. She should calmly be able to express what she thinks about you without hesitation.

4. What kind of relationship do you have with God?

Many avoid asking these questions because they feel that someone's beliefs should not affect you pursuing a relationship with them. However it is very important to know what type of person you are dealing with because they might seem to be the love of your life but she may be an atheist. She may worship Satan three times a day. So you need to know where her spiritual life resides. You need to be sure that again as stated before that you both share some common ground. Every one finds themselves in need of prayer at some point and the last thing you want is to be in need of prayer and she is making chants to Satan. It doesn't hurt to ask.


5. How well are you with managing money?

Money makes the world go around right?
Then nothing can mess up your world than trying to build up your finances with a woman who loves to spend more than she loves to save. You will find yourself in some financial debt sooner or later. You can always take full control over the finances but eventually you will have a battle when she is complaining about wanting to purchase things while you both are trying to save for something greater. Be sure that she has some understanding about the importance of saving and managing money well so that you do not find yourself losing more than you are earning.


These are simply just a few top questions to ask the women that you are pursuing with hopes of later becoming a potential partner for you. Every man needs a woman who will help to bring out the best in him as well as be his backbone. There will be times when you may fall on rocky cliffs in your life and she will need to be able to swing the weight if possible. You need more than just a pretty face standing around you collecting dust and nagging about everything she feels you are not doing to make her happy. You also need to be happy. A sad puppy will eventually find a more welcoming home.

 So single men take some time to ask these questions and as many as you need to feel confident in the woman you plan to have a future with.