Tips for Understanding How to Date A Single Mom

Dating for a single mother can be quite difficult.

When a single parent dates, one must have an understanding that the process is not only about the individual but also about what works best for the child. Its about making time for the individual you are currently getting to know and also about managing your time around your child and work life. This is often a hard thing for those who do not have kids to understand when they pursue you.

Many guys can be quite selfish when it comes to dating a single mother because they expect you to drop everything that you have going on at the last minute. The average working single mother requires you to make plans in advance in order to spend time with her and sadly there will not be a lot of pop up visits or last minute plans. As a grown man, you must be able to understand that her time is limited and although she is excited about having someone become part of her world, she knows that her life is not all about her wants or needs.

I have been single going on four years now and I have had my share of let downs when it comes to dating. The average working mother looks at more than just the fact of liking the guy but also if the guy has the potential to be a great father figure to her child. There are so many abusive, perverts and pedophiles out here that a single mother has to be very careful about her choices and any red flags that pop up are a dismiss card for the guy.

A single mother observes how well you respect her time. She is also attentive to your reaction when she states that she does have kids. Be mindful that a single mother will not have you around her kids so suddenly until she knows that the dating will turn into something serious and long term.

When I am dating this is one of my main things that I observe in a guy. I have to know whether this is just a lustful fling going on in the man's head or if he see's me as a potential long term partner.

As a single mother, I do not date for fun. I date with a purpose.

There are so many who just say get out there and have fun because you are single. No as a mother with a child, there is no such thing as dating for fun because again you have a responsibility that will be observing your actions. As a responsible single mother, you can't have different men in and out your door or around your child or kids.
Your actions become their reality as they get older.

Real men know how important it is to be patient. Understand that she is not trying to put you last. If you meet a single mother who is planning and making time in her schedule for you then by all means take excitement in that because it means that she is really interested in you.

Also many of you want to know what are the perfect dates to go on with a single mother. If you and her are going on a first date then just look into doing things that will allow her to relax and exhale. Picnics in the park, hiking, and spa treatments are great places to go because she has been busy all week with her child and work so help her to relax when she is with you. Become that place of peace when she is around you, you know her perfect getaway from her busy life.

If you have been dating consistently for at least three months then plan a getaway weekend for her and her child or kids. She will be observing to see how well you interact and relate with her kids.

I always sit back and observe how a guy responds to my child and his body language when handling things after we have been dating for three months or longer. Your interaction with her child can be a make or huge deal breaker.

 

I was excited to watch a video put out on YouTube by "Derrick Jaxn" who spoke on how single mothers are only for real men. It was a pleasure to hear a man finally speak out about what single mothers have to encounter in the dating world. If a man is not mature enough then dating a single mother will not work for him.


Dating a single mother is a positive and not a negative. Her pros are that she knows how to prioritize and make time for you, her career and her child. Great signs of a potential mother & wife for you if that's your goal.

 Most men think that dating a single mother is a deal breaker when really it is a plus.  If you deal with women who do not have kids, many of them can be quite selfish when it comes to their time and could care less about your time.

When I didn't have a child, nobody else mattered but me and I was quite firm about that. It wasn't until I became a mom that I started valuing the importance of other people in my life.

I want to add that no, not all single moms are dating because they need financial help with their child or kids. Many of us are handling our own weight in the home, yet we still need our men to be part of our life. Our desire is to bring our child up in a two parent environment.  Not all of us have "baby daddy drama" as many men fear.

Remember be patient with us, always make plans in advance, never play with her time and most of all be understanding when things pop up that might cause a detour in our schedule. If you can do these minor things then you will have a woman on your hand who will truly make you feel like a king.
Lastly do things for her without her having to ask you. It's the little things that mean a lot to a busy mom.

Real men understand that.

The Fears Of Love

"Love never fails. People fail love."

I believe we all have at least fallen in love at one point or another in our life. That love moment either helped us become better as a person or taught us a hard lesson.
I do believe that the idea of love has somewhat vanished. I have observed many who would rather have the physical intimacy rather than the mental and soulful connection.

I have had my share of bad encounters and for me love just seems to be almost as hopeful as waiting for a shooting star to cross the midnight skies.

I truly believe that enough bad encounters will leave any one person in a moment of despair and grief. The mind begins to wonder if love will ever happen and if they are even worthy of being loved. We observe love occurring in every aspect of our life and even on social media. We just can't seem to shake the images constantly appearing before our eyes. Images reminding us that our time for love has still not yet come.

In the hours of waiting or constantly running into dead end streets with those you assume are potential life partners. You begin to fear love. You begin to fear the idea of falling in love. You fear it because the thoughts of love have failed you time and time again. Each moment that you got motivated and built up the nerve to pursue again, you were disappointed with what was presented to you.

No you are not a bad person and yes you are very much worthy of love. However at this moment in your life the best thing for you to do is to simply spend time loving yourself more. Yes that often seems like a hard thought right? You say out loudly that "I already love myself" and you desire to have someone else to experience that same love with you. You are frustrated with trying over and over and as each year passes you discover disappointment after disappointment.

I want to encourage you to not give up.

I and many others have found ourselves in the same shoes that you are in now.
We all wanted to just say forget love and enjoy the single life doing however you please.

I want to share one of my favorite love stories in the bible.

Ruth and Boaz.

Ruth was not looking for a husband. She was still mourning the lost of her previous husband. She had relocated to a new place with her mother-n-law and her focus was mainly on making a living so that they could eat. Each day Ruth went out into the field to gather the remaining scraps that the other women had left behind. She was focus and not in search of anyone nor was she observing to see if anyone had taken notice of her.

Yet as she moved continuously through the fields. A man had taken notice of her. he observed her and began to inquire to other male workers about her. He started having the women to leave more food behind for her to gather in the field. Desiring to help this woman who was just focus on the scraps and getting by.

Ruth had no idea of the blessings this man was laying before her on her path daily. Needless to say Ruth went on to marry a man that she never knew noticed her or her hard work. Sometimes the ones you are paying attention to may not be the ones for you.

There is somebody who is taking notice of how hard you work and admires everything about you.
They might have not found the time to approach you but the blessings are definitely being laid down before you, just keep busy. Stay focus on what it is you are trying to pursue for yourself. Stop searching for love.

Let  love find you. Let love observe you. Let love bless you.

The moment you stop fearing if it will ever happen for you, that will be the moment that it happens.

I know it hurts and sometimes you feel down and depressed but believe me, just because a few did not care for your time and affection does not mean nobody exists who will.

Remember that love did not fail you. People fail you. Love is going to happen for you really soon!
Your love story will be amazing and every heart break that you experienced will be a thing of the past. Don't let a few bad run ins cause you to change who you are nor give up.

Money Talks! Reasons Why Broke Guys Finish Last!

There is a reason why she seems to be chasing after the man who has the money more so than the man who has her heart at best interest.

We all believe in love but for many that love does not help to pay the bills or make life easy. No matter how hard a man works there will always be that guy who drives by in the nice Ferrari that makes his Toyota look like nothing at all. The sad thing about it is not only does he notice the nice ride but so does his girlfriend.

Many women would be lying if they said they were not looking for a man who could take care of them. It's what many of them have been raised up on for centuries. Women were taught to just maintain their beauty and cooking skills so they could get a man who was rich enough to take care of them. Father's did not even give their daughter's hand in marriage without knowing exactly how that man planned on taking care of her.

Forget about coming to her parents door with love in your heart and no money because her parents would keep the door locked and turn off the porch light. The average female despite how much she loves one guy tends to go after the guy who shows her that he can give her a better life financially despite how much he actually cares about her. In every neighborhood or household you can possibly find a woman whose heart belongs to another guy the opposite of the one she married. To her family and friends the decision will be considered a good move but she will live on forever trying to prove to herself that she loves him more than she loves his money.

Lets take a look deeper into the matter.

So she is a working woman who is just barely getting by with her monthly bills and obligations. She really loves this guy who she has known for a while now. Every month she finds herself in a financial crisis so she calls you to help out with that shortage on the rent or maybe some gas in her car. When she calls, you began telling her about how you really wish you could help her but currently you have no money to give her.  She loves you so she states how she understands despite the fact that she is still in desperate need of some help. While strolling down her call log for persons who are able to help her, she runs across that guy who is self-employed and even though he is a bit disrespectful, he is always available to help her when she needs him. The lights are about to be turned off and you my lover boy can't help her so what do you think she will do?

She will call that disrespectful guy to pay her bills and eventually find herself involved with him because she needs the help and lover boy is just never able to come through when she needs him.

This is the realistic scenario for so many women every month and every day.

Its never fair to the guy who has a dream of one day having the money but for some women they just refuse in the 20th century to sit around and wait on a dream that for them may never come. They only see the right now situation which is that disconnect notice in bold letters and you sitting back smiling in her face but not being able to help her out. They see this guy who has the gas to come over for sex but never has the gas money when her tank is about empty. They see the same guy who can take her on a few cheap dates but is never able to help her when she says I need some help with my rent.


So even though love matters, a woman in this day and time is looking for that love to be shown in more ways than one.

I do believe that a woman who sticks beside a man when he is broke until he makes it on his feet will truly be taken care of if the guy appreciates her. There are some guys who do make it but run off with another woman and forget about the one who put up with him during his broke days.

I'm not saying that its ever right for a woman to not put up with a guy that she claims to love because he is broke. I just want you to see the reasons for why this mishap occurs everyday. No woman should choose a guy just because of his finances because those are things that can easily change but it happens daily.

Men state that they do not want a broke woman and the same rules apply with women who do not want a broke man. The rules of the game is to work hard and get yourself together financially first before attempting to get married to a woman that you are not able to take care of. No matter how much she loves you, eventually she will get tired of never being able to enjoy life because bills are constantly piling up.

Your financial status does matter, however having a woman who will stick beside you while you work on bettering yourself is a huge blessing and you should definitely appreciate that. In a world where money is the only thing that seems to matter these days, a man must value a woman who is not after his pockets but is after his heart.

Money does talk a lot quicker but a man who is broke will only finish last if he chooses to.

No woman wants a man who sells her dreams but every year is still in the same boat he swam to her door in.

Get yourself together so that when you and that special woman do come together, you can enjoy life a lot easier. We all want someone to love us for just us but sadly that's not the way it is all the time. People love you as long as you have something going for yourself and if not then that love tends to turn into vapor.

"Reasons I'm Not Rushing Marriage"

So yes I'm the single woman who hopes to one day get married but I'm not rushing into it.

I have definitely had my share of experiences with congratulating people on getting married only to see them filing for a divorce within two years and sometimes less than that. You sit back and observe couples of all ages happily rushing to plan for that wedding and all the while it seems that every guy you meet is just running in the opposite direction of settling down. Sure you begin to ask yourself if something is wrong with you and of course you ponder after a few lonely nights of popcorn on the couch, "Will It Ever Happen?". Well I'm here to say that its all worth the wait. You never want to just do something because you see others doing it. That's like planning to jump off the Manhattan Bridge just because you have heard about others who have. Despite your desire to one day tie the knot, you should take into consideration all the responsibilities that come with being married.

Marriage is so much more than sex. Yes I said it!

Many get married for the wrong reasons and later end up in divorce court when those qualities they married for begin to fall through the crevices. You may find him or her very attractive and at the moment you may say that you could never grow tired of looking at them. Yet time will surely bring about a change in physical features so you have to be sure that the person you are planning to marry has more meaning to you than just their looks or the shape of their body.

When I think of a person that I plan to spend my life with; I observe his daily activity to see where his heart is most focused upon and also how he reacts to certain things. I observe a lot about the guy because I need to know how he reacts when he is upset or depressed. You need to take the time to learn a little history about the person you are vowing to dedicate your life to. Find out if they like to clean up behind themselves, do they have bladder problems, meaning occasional wetting of the bed at night.
Does this person have a history of mental issues etc. The list can drag on forever but its all part of learning about this person before you dive into marriage. I see many women who marry out of loneliness and because they are financially struggling. These are all the wrong reasons to marry a person. If you did it for money then what will you do when he becomes broke or loses his job? If you married for good sex then what will you do if that person has an accident and can no longer perform?!

When we take those vows that say for better and for worse; many just focus on the better but forget about the worse. Life will definitely have its affects on each of us and you have to love that person so much that if a time came where you had to bathe, feed, or change a diaper then you will do it because you love them. Love means that I love your soul more than your physical. So when he starts losing that head full of hair and those wrinkles start coming in, you got to still want to smother him with kisses just as you did on that day at the alter.

So this is why I wait.

I know exactly what I have prayed to God for and I won't settle for anything less than that. I don't want a man who simply loves my body and forgets to love my mind. I want a man who kisses my mental the same way he kisses my physical.

I want a love that will last like the older days and not just end over small issues. I need to know that the man who asks me to be his wife will not just toss me to the side when he is bored or growing weary. We have to be able to communicate and pray together through every situation even if we get down to one last brown penny, I plan to stay and together get through the struggle.


So no I'm not rushing this thing.
I'm taking my time no matter the age to patiently wait for that special guy who has a mutual desire as strong as mine to make our love last forever. We have to grow together as friends first before we can grow together as anything else.

I want that salt and pepper love, which means we will be together until his hair turns from pepper black to salty white!

Keep waiting ladies and gentlemen who really have a desire for an everlasting love and not something that's just going to last for a couple of springs.

There are reasons for waiting. Love is not supposed to be rushed. Take your time. There is a reason that the phrase, "falling in love" exists. This means that it occurs over a period of time. It doesn't just happen overnight. Too often we rush the love portion.

If you jump off a cliff, you won't hit the ground right away but eventually you will hit it and very hard. Love is just like falling off the cliff. Eventually it will hit you but in the mean time...enjoy the fall.

Breaking Free of Soul-Ties!

Ever found yourself still experiencing pain from a past relationship or lover?
Does the very thought of that person still bring up bad images and thoughts in your head that make you feel as if you are reliving the hurt all over again?
This is only possible when you and the person are still tied to each other spiritually. We often think that when we break things off with a person and state that we are done with them that it is as we say. Yet there are some who have had such an impact on you spiritually that it still haunts your mind. Now when I say spiritually, I am speaking about your inner man, your soul.

Breaking free of someone who has deeply impacted you can take years if you do not rid yourself completely of them. This means not only ridding yourself of the pictures, clothing, or however else you try to forget a person. You must break all connections with that person off. There is no reason for you to still be out having lunch with them, holding conversations over the phone with them or even friends with them on any social sites.

Many believe that remaining friends with a person who has hurt them will prove to the individual that you are over them and beyond the hurt. In actuality all it does is prove to the individual that you are still connected to them and that you sadly will never fully let them out of your life. It proves that they still have control over your mind and heart.

If you ever expect to have anything good enter your life, you must first let go of all the bad. If you do not break off all connections with that person then you could say the situation looks like spoiled milk being constantly filled back up with new milk. The situation will never improve but only contaminate the next good thing that comes your way.

We pray often for God to send us someone who loves us and will take care of our heart but yet we are refusing to break off all ties with those who have hurt us. You do not need to remain friends with people who have treated your love in vain and tossed you to the side as if you were crap!

I have yet to understand how people say they have forgave a person who have hurt them yet feel the need after forgiving to go and hang out with them. This is the most backwards thing you could do to yourself.
It looks just as wild as the female who constantly screams she is being physically abused by a man but every day she returns to him. Despite the bruises on her face.

Men and women you must break ties with those people if you expect any good to enter. Remember you cant keep pouring fresh milk into a spoiled milk jug. When you try to stay friends with people like that, you will inwardly began to smell bad and ward off anyone who attempts to  be in your life.



So today take the step to break free of them. Forgive but completely let them go. Open that door and allow them to exit your soul and life for good. Say to yourself today I am breaking myself free completely of any soul ties to whomever it is that you have discovered still has a connection in your life. By doing this you will experience an amazing feeling deep within and freely be able to receive the true love that awaits you. Remember that today we are dumping out that spoiled milk and starting fresh!

Keith Robinson performs at Steel Lounge in Birmingham, Alabama!

Steel Lounge is an amazing venue located off of 1st Avenue North in the downtown region of Birmingham, Alabama. Upon arrival to this spot, you are greeted at the door by the amazing sounds of that old school music that leaves you reminiscing on the days of old.

The crowd swayed left to right to the music flowing from the microphone with local singer, Sharon Collins performing some of the greatest hits of Jill Scott. Although excited about the music, the crowd patiently awaited the performance of actor/singer Keith Robinson to hit the stage.

Keith Robinson has been traveling all over promoting his soon released album entitled "Love Episodic". The album features hit singles such as, "Just Kissed", "Same Rules" & "Love Somebody" to name a few. Robinson has proved to many that he is so much more than just an actor. The actor although starring in many great movies such as, "Get On Up", the James Brown Biopic, "Dream Girls", "This Christmas", "CRU", and more has proven to many that he can also sing. Keith Robinson captured the attention of the crowd as many song and rocked back and forth to his music. I had one guy pull my jacket and say, "Hey, I didn't know he could sing like that". Not many know but as he continues to shut down the stage at different venues, many are coming to join in on the fan base for his music.

Keith really stole the crowd as the city of Birmingham gathered around the stage to support him. I had the pleasure of getting a few pictures in with the actor/artist himself before and after his performance. I must add that hearing him in person is the most amazing experience. You can listen to his music all day but when he is performing live, the vibe is definitely felt through the soul. I feel what shocks so many is the fact that he can really sing and doesn't need music to show off just how skilled he is. In the words of the late great Sam Cooke, "It's been a long time coming but I know a change is going to come". Robinson is definitely changing the views of many with his music and I can't help but wish the actor/singer a great journey with his music career.

You can keep up with Keith Robinson by following him on Facebook where he is very active on his page with fans. You can also follow Keith on Instagram & Twitter by searching @Keithsings. Be sure to also subscribe to his website  keithsings.com  and stay alerted

with any new events that he will be apart of.

                                                    

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