"Getting back to Love After a Break-Up"

No one likes breaking up but its part of everyday life. You find yourself growing further apart from the one you once couldn't see yourself without. It happens and sometimes its the worst feeling ever to get past.
Many times a break up no matter how it ends can leave individuals on a soul seeking journey to figure out what they did wrong in the relationship and how they can make the next relationship better.
During this time of solitude, one must not hesitate to first get back to loving yourself. When you are in a relationship, all of your time and effort goes into making the other person happy. There are times where you are so wrapped up into making sure the other person is happy that you lose out on remembering the things that once made you happy.

Many have fallen into the error of trying to jump right back into a relationship due to loneliness instead of allowing themselves to heal and properly prepare themselves mentally for the next relationship. This can be a tragic mishap when they find themselves suddenly fearful and assuming the next person is going to be just like their last relationship, because they have failed to allow healing of the mind and soul. When you break up from any long-term relationship, it is best to at least give yourself a year to spend alone. During this alone time, it is okay to date and just observe what you expect from the next relationship. It is a time to grow in areas that you may have grown weak in mentally and physically.

One thing I see a lot of people do is began to punish themselves by thinking that just because a long term relationship did not work out, that they were at fault. You may have done everything you have known to do in that relationship that was deemed right in your eyes, but they still walked away. Do not let that punish you. Often times we have to look back at how a person grew up. Some people do not know how to love nor how to handle being treated well. It would seem that everyone in life is seeking something good for themselves, yet everyone honestly is not. If the world evolved around people wanting something good for themselves then people would eat healthier and maintain those gym memberships right?

Understand that just because the person who left you did not appreciate what you had to offer, does not mean something was wrong with you. You should continue to be the best person you know how to be and one day someone will appreciate all that you have to offer.

So while you journey back to discovering true love, continue to work on becoming the best version of you. Be open to new things, and by all means let go of past hurts and do not hold the new love accountable for past hurts.

True love is right around the corner for you if you allow yourself to be open to receiving it, which means tearing down that brick wall from the past hurt. Go into your garden, and uproot all the weeds in your life and clip off those dead leaves. It is time now for new beginnings.