"Top 5 Reasons Dating is not working for You"

So you are on the journey to finding the right one because you are tired of the single life yet there is something quite wrong!

You are wondering why are all these amazing dates you have been on have lead you nowhere.

A lot of people are facing this rotating issue and its because they have no clue about the rules of dating. Dating is not bound to just one individual. When you date you may date multiple individuals to help you define what works best for you and who will be the person you would rather later have a longterm relationship with. Many once they have decided on just one individual, the dating is now considered to be "exclusively dating" meaning you both have decided to only date eachother until a decision is made to become officially involved.

During the dating stage it is very important to pay attention not only to the person of interests actions but also to highly watch your own actions. We have heard the phrase many times, "Actions speak louder than words".

So what are you doing wrong on the dating field? Why is dating leading you nowhere? Well I have gathered only a few tips below on what the common problems are with dating that many fail to notice and it sends that possible partner on the run.

1. "You Post the Wrong Things on Facebook or social sites...."

The worst thing you can do is be friends with the person you are dating online and constantly post provacative images or statuses not only about yourself but others. Doing these things can send a very sour image to the person you are dating. They began to wonder in their mind if maybe they are just an extra person for you to lust after rather than a potential life partner. Men stop posting all these half naked "WCW"  because the female you are dating will assume that those are the women you are interested in and she will back off. Men stop playing the number game while dating because believe me....your dates are reading and making decisions about you. Women the same applies to you. Stop posting half naked images on social media while dating guys you want life long relationships with. You are giving him the impression that you are easy and available for anyone. People make huge mistakes posting the wrong things daily and that includes subliminal memes that have your dating partner ready to hit the delete button on you!

2. "You are Still Hurting"....

Many make the careless mistakes of pouring their soul out while dating. Its okay to give some information about a few bad decisions or encounters you have faced but never go too much into detail because you may give the wrong impression. Constantly talking about how bad your ex's were to you and how they cheated and lied just gives the image that you are still affected by those hurts. A potential partner may assume that you will be a lot of work to deal with. This can send them on the run if you have to many issues that you are still appearing disturbed by. Learn to zip that lip and just go forward with this new beginning in front of you.

3. "You can't Manage your Money"...

Nothing is worse than dating someone who is always broke! Everytime its time to go grab a bite or see a movie....you don't have a dime to your name. Learn how to put a few dollars aside because using the excuse that, "I just paid my bills" or "Its just a bad time of the month" shouldn't be your excuse every time. This can be a huge deal breaker because your potential partner will wonder is this a possible weight that will come with being in a long term relationship with you.

4. "You show no Signs of Caring"...

Nothing makes a person smile more than the idea that somebody cares about them. I always say that its the little things that matter the most. Send those sweet little "Good Morning" text messages or "How is your Day?" or "You're on my Mind"....all that and more will put a smile on anyones face and it only takes five seconds out of your day to do. Many have suffered from so many bad relationships that they tend to sit back and assume the potential partner should make all the effort to "whoo" them. Sending off those bad signals can send a person on the run or give the assumption that you are just not that into them. So pick up the phone and call and send text messages to the person you are dating. Say "Good night" or "I hope you had a wonderful day". It only benefits you in the end. Nothing is worse than seeing a person you are dating posting status after status or IG (Instagram) pictures all day without once speaking to you.

5. "You are Self Righteous"...

Nobody likes a person who doesn't know how to agree to disagree. In other words you don't always have to be right. Its okay to sit back and not debate every matter presented. Remember you are observing and dating. Its okay to not agree with everything someone believes but ask yourself is it worth arguing over?! There are those who simply must debate everything! Nobody is right and nobody is smarter than they are. These individuals go on every date ready to take you to trial over your opinions. Be open minded to the fact that everyone is not on the same level as you nor thinks like you do. Debating with everyone you date can keep you on the single market far longer than you desire. I have seen individuals who have been single for literally over eight years because they live for debates. Don't let that become you.

Of course there is so much to cover when you are dating but observing these five topics can help you to break down some barriers that you may have up and just were clueless about. Making neccessary changes can help you to improve your dating life and lead you down a path to a successful longterm relationship.