Infidelity in Relationships...Why???

Its never good enough that I loved you even during hard times cooked you meals to make you smile, tried to help ease the pain of your mind. Dressed the way you liked me to, so your face would keep a smile but in the midst of your smile, something deeper was there all the while, Its never good enough that I had your back and pushed away all the guys I felt this is love so why be entertained with male flies, I was faithful and true to you but it was nothing to you, look how you go and do, Its never good enough for a man to have a good woman he will always look to the streets for what he already has at home when will it ever register in his dome that the streets dont love a man who roams... I had to start this off with something different than the usual, but anyway something was on my mind and honestly there may never be an answer to it but, I just dont understand why men choose to mess up their happy home. I mean lets be honest, there will always be someone good looking out there that catches your eye, but it doesnt mean you have to give them all a try. When I am in a relationship with someone that I say "I love You" to, I mean those words to the heart and nothing will cause me to go be unfaithful because my heart could not bare the guilt of having to look this person in the eye everyday, and I would even feel uncomfortable laying in the bed with them again knowing that not long ago, another male was on top of me. It never fails though that you hear a story about a man/woman who have a good spouse or partner at the house and they cheat on them. Now no matter what people say, there is never an excuse for cheating. Some say well I cheated because: 1.They nag to much 2. They cheated on me so I got back at them 3. I was mad at the time 4. I was drunk or high and one thing led to the next. 5. I was curious. Then the biggest one of them all that people use as a reason to cheat..."What they dont know wont hurt them". Men and Women honestly believe in their mind that their partner will never find out that they are cheating, well let me kill that slogan by saying, "What is done in the dark, comes to the light eventually". You ALWAYS GET CAUGHT! The funny thing about it is, the people risk their families, their rook over their head, the person who they know if hard times fell on them, would be there to help them up. They are so foolish to risk their joy just for a nut! A few minutes of pleasure, and when its over, they return to their partners and pretend that all is well. Now what is a Good Woman/Good Man? I would say that no one is perfect, but when you find something good, you hold on to it and you never let it go. Good is that person who loves you for who you are no matter how much fault you find in yourself, they always see something deeper and greater within you. A good person is that person who is willing to turn down the world because they are happy with you alone and no one else matters. A good person is one who loves God and allows him to direct their footsteps, because honey when a man or woman loves God, they will love you to! People who cheat try to be sneaky and they are selfish, they think only of themselves and never about how what they are doing will effect the other person in the relationship. Its embarrassing for women and men in a relationship to walk around smiling with their bf/gf and everyone around him or her knows he is cheating. I feel they if you are not happy with your relationship, then simply let it go. But no, they dont want to let it go because they know that they will be losing something wonderful and the pain of seeing that person in the arms of someone else is just heart wrecking but at the same time, how would they person feel seeing you in bed with someone else. Selfish people. Selfish people dont want no one else happy if they are not happy. You can never have your cake & ice cream to for long because eventually ice cream melts & the ants will eat up the cake. People cheat trying to satisfy their ego...they feel less because everyone around them is cheating & they the only one being faithful so now they out to prove to themselves if they still got it or not. To the men that cheat, always know that hoes tell. You may be laughing but it is the God honest truth. A hoe will soon get jeolous of what you got and the fact that you giving someone else majority of your time and that you paying someone else bills and when she finds out who your wife or girlfriend is...she is going to figure out a way to tell her. Most of the time, cheating men/women trip themselves up & end up exposing their own infedelity, but always remember who ever you fool with on the low will eventually show up to tell because no one likes hiding in the dark for to long. If you dont love that person, then let them go, so someone who deserves them & all they have to give can love them. You deserve to sit back & watch them enjoy life with someone else other than you, because its all you have been creeping to do, so let go Half of these cheaters want to use every excuse in the world to make the other person think that its so bad in their relationship, but maybe you should ask them, "Why do you Stay?", if its soooo bad, then why are you still with that person. Simple, because it aint bad at all. In the end, the only one who is getting played is the person cheating.

"Fear of the Unknown"

What makes people afraid? I believe that we are afraid of the things we do not fully understand. A child may be afraid to jump into a pool of water because they have never been in a large amount of water, a young adult may be afraid to move out on their own because they dont know what it feels like to live alone. These are just a few examples of what makes us afraid.

This very fear is what causes us to be afraid of success or trying to achieve more. The key to getting over your fear is by trying, you will never know what you can do in life until you put forth the effort to try. Fear can trouble our relationships as well, a lot of men and women do not know what it means to show love to another individual because they are afraid of being hurt. The difference with this kind of fear is that it comes after a bad experience. When you have a bad experience, it can affect your life forever. To overcome your fears, you need to pray and ask God to help you overcome the things that hinder you. the very things that have consumed your mind and taken it over can be removed and you can began to live your life in peace as God intended for you to. My personal experience was Fear in the church. I knew there was a calling on my life but because I was afraid to accept it, I kept putting it off as much as possible. Mainly because i was afraid of what I may have to give up, I thought there were things that I would miss out on. I said to myself, let me go back and experience what it feels like to go to the club and to drink and laugh. Surprisingly I found out that i wasnt missing out on anything. I also learned that being saved doesnt mean that you cant enjoy your life and live. I got over my fear and I want you to get over your fears by facing them. How do you face a fear? Learn what it is about the situation thats causing you to be afraid. Now by all means, Im not saying if you are afraid of snakes to go buy a snake, but what i am saying is that you should face the fears that hinder you from being able to succeed. Get over your fears so you can get back to smiling and enjoying your life. Dont be afraid of the things you dont know, because after all, how can you fear something that you dont have a clue of.

"Don't Worry...Be Happy"

Well its a New Year and everyone is doing a clean sweep on their life they had in 2012, and hopefully you all are setting some goals that you can adapt to and achieve. Everything you do should be eveolved around making you happy, I mean even if its going to school or working on a job...be sure it makes you happy. I mean honestly we do a lot of things just to keep the bills paid. However you get your money, by all means do so, just be sure that at the end of the day, you are happy with how you are living. I hate hearing people who go around and complain all day about how they hate their job or certain things about their life but they dont get up and make that change. Making a change to do what makes you happy can even be getting rid of people in your life that waste your time. I worked a job once that kicked my butt and left me feeling miserable all the time, I barely had time for myself and anyone else, and I kept saying well Im just doing this til I finish school, but school wasnt going to be complete for another year so I had to ask myself, "Do you really want to continue on this crappy job for another year?", I mean I was miserable and really not living my life for me at all. I was just living to work and barely pay the bills with the small money I was making. So this blog is for those who were like me and very well may still be just like me....working or doing things that dont make you happy. So quit and find a new job if the one you have makes you miserable, thats what Michael Baisden said to do, sometimes you got to keep you in mind because thats what your job does, it keeps itself in mind. While you missing out on vacations with the family, church events, your childs life, your boss is living it up and going home at night happy. So quit that relationship that leaves you stressed out and in a bad mood all the time and find you someone worth loving and who deserves your love. Whats living if you spending it with someone who really could care less about if you came or went. We spend to much time worried about everyone but ourselves. We living to impress everybody but ourselves. We are so concerned about what others will think or feel about us that we forget to care about what we want for ourselves. Life is to short to not be happy, so in 2013, lets toast to doing only what makes you happy. If that means having a free schedule to be with your kids then do so, if that means having free time for you, then do so, even if it means finding love, then by all means do so. Im Happy and you should be to.