Learning to Love Yourself so You can love Someone Else

Love is a word many of us have heard on numerous occassions. When did you first think about the word love or began to feel that you needed love? Maybe you discovered what love was from your parents or maybe you simply read about it in a book. No matter how you came to know this word, its a powerful word that is behind every mental and physical action around the world today. In order to know love, you must be taught what love is and not everyone knows what love is because they may have been mislead to believe that certain behaviors were known as love. Im not sure how many people read the book by Steve Harvey, "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man", but in his book he touched on some key points to understanding the difference between loves meaning to women and men. Since men tend to not operate off their emotions as much as women, this causes a clash when it comes to the word love. Many women and men have grew up in homes where there was abuse and then they saw their parents say " I love you", after they got physical with each other. This confused some and made many think that this must be how you show love. Many men and women are dealing with learning how to show love because they learned it first the wrong way. In learning to love another person, you have to know what love is and how it feels. How does love feel? Love should give you a good feeling on the inside and at times it can give you mixed feelings but still good. Love isnt slapping a person, beating them or verbally abusing them! Love shouldnt leave you feeling ugly or horrible inside.

Sometimes it takes you years to grow to understand what love is. Being alone helps you learn more about yourself so you can learn how to recieve love. Because facts are that if you do not love yourself then you cant possibly love someone else, so spending some alone time with self helps. Dont go looking for love in someone else and expecting it to help you if you have no clue on showing or recieving love. Again love is not painful, so if you are with someone who brings you pain, beats on you, brings you down mentally, then that is not love. Its time to take time out to love you so when you meet that special someone, you can show them how to love you because you now know how to love you. In loving yourself you learn what is acceptable and what is not, which means you wont let anybody come and treat you anything less than how you treat yourself.