5 Reasons He’s
Worth Marrying
So
here you are wondering if the special man in your life is worth spending your
entire life with.You
may have told all your friends and family members that this guy is truly
everything you have been
waiting for and looking for in a man. Yet on the inside there is still that
feeling that you need a bit more hope
to accept that marriage idea he keeps bringing up to you. Here are some ways to
help you identify if he is truly worth marrying.
Now
notice it’s different for everyone because others may not need all these signs
to tell them the guy is worth
marrying because every woman has a different set of standards. However if you
believe the mold fits you right then these great tips may be just what
you needed to hear to give to go forward with the man of your dreams!
. 1.You share a
mutual connection of thoughts and Ideas…Nothing is like being around a person
that you can connect with on all levels. It is so very important to be able to
communicate with the person you are planning to commit to for the rest of your
life. Now I’m not saying you will not have days that you do not agree, but those disagreements
will be minor compared to every day discussions. You want someone that you can
discuss business with, someone who you can bring up ideas to and they
understand and are willing to support those ideas as strongly as if they were
their own ideas. Today many people marry for the wrong reasons and find
themselves in long term relationships with people they have to debate with
every time they mention how they feel. Be mindful that you also don’t want
someone who agrees with everything you say because that can be signs they
simply are not interested in what you are saying and just really want to make
you happy regardless of how obscure the ideas you present sound. You will know
that you both have a mutual connection because you may find yourselves laughing
and saying, “Wow, we have so much in common”.
2. He is Truthful….Being around a
man who tells you the truth regardless of how it may make you feel says a lot.
Nobody wants to be around a lying man because when a man can’t be honest with
you about small things then you know that when bigger issues arise, he will lie
to you about those also. Honesty goes a long way and some women will claim they
don’t want a man to tell them everything and that he should lie to them
sometimes about small things like, (weight, fitting of clothing, hair, etc). I
disagree with that because this only opens the door for him to feel it is okay
to lie about other things because all he heard was you say, “It is okay to lie
to me sometimes”. Honesty in a man is a plus, you may not like what he has to
say but if he is keeping it real with you, take that into consideration because
many men are out sweeping women off their feet with lies.
3. He Loves God… Allow me to
break that down for you a bit more. He not only loves God but has a
relationship with God. A man who prays and honors God’s words will honor you.
Now some people will disagree and say that its some snakes in the church, and
that may be true but remember I said he “honors” God’s words. A man who is just
attending church and never communicates with God may be someone to watch out
for. When considering marriage, a man in the bible is labeled the head and God
is his head, so then you can follow your head as long as it is being lead by
God. (I Cor. 11:3). A man who seeks
after the heart of God will do the things that are pleasing to God which
includes loving you as he loves his own flesh. He will not seek to hurt you nor
torment you, but find every way to love you as God loves us. He is that
forgiving man who does not hold grudges when you make an error, he is that man
that wants to pray about the things you both can’t come to an agreement on. He
is that man that is okay waiting for you which includes holding off on sex
until you say I do.
4.
He makes you
Laugh…Being
in the presence of a man who knows how to put a smile on your face even when
you are mad at him is truly a gift. Life is so much greater than the little
things that we face each day so when you find a man who shows you the bright
side of everything, then he is worth holding on to. No one likes a negative
person who makes you feel miserable and drains you of your joy because they are
always complaining about life. I believe we all began to laugh when we saw the actor;
Lance Gross removes his shirt in Tyler Perry’s movie Temptation and began to
play that guitar! Who could stay mad after seeing that? No one! So spend life
with a man who is not just silly all the time, but he knows when to laugh and
when to be serious. I’m not saying go marry Mr. Silly who never takes anything
serious unless that’s your cup of tea.
Remember you are planning to spend the rest of your life with this guy,
so you need some laughs along the way to get you through those rocky road days
that do tend to come in marriage.
5.
You are not a
secret in his Life….
A man who loves you wants the world to know that he loves you and he will make
your presence known to everyone that he encounters. He will take you home to
meet his mother, his grandmother, his dad or whoever he feels is a key of
importance in his life. Most females confuse meeting the guys friends as a sign
that he is making your presence known, that is not always a sign. Meeting a
guys friends means nothing because you may not be the only female he has
brought to meet his friends that week. They will not be to quick to even tell
you either, instead they will smile and greet you as they did the last female
on yesterday. These days, most women seek to be made known on social media
sites such as Facebook, Twitter, or even Instagram by the guy who claims to
love them. This is a plus for today’s generation because he is showing he doesn't mind the world knowing you both are in love. However be careful with that also
because some guys just do that for show every week they post a different girl.
Stick to the old school way of going home and having dinner with his parents. A
man who wants to spend his life with you, will bring you into his life which
includes being around his family and at family events. If he never invites you
to his home, to meet his parents, or to any family events then that may be a
sign to watch out for.
Making sure he is the right one also means praying
and asking God if this guy is the one to marry because often times, you may
meet a guy with all these great qualities listed but he may not be for you, he
could be for someone else. I hope that these great tips helped take care of
that little doubt you had in your mind and eased your stomach a bit so you can
relax. If he adds up to these tips then why are you making that man wait when
he clearly wants to give you his last name!
