Letter from Dwayne Wade's Baby Mama...Shocking or Not?

So of course this letter has went viral...after Dwayne Wade & his fiancée Gabrielle Union took a break, he was back sleeping with his baby mama.

Every since Dwayne Wade admitted to having a child with a woman other than his fiancée, actress Gabrielle Union, he has faced lot's of controversy behind it. His baby’s mother, Aja Metoyer, has allegedly been publicly bashing Wade and his relationship with 41-year-old Union. Now I admit its bad when your fiancée decides to not only cheat on you but creates a baby! Now I mean that would definitely have me messed up & more than anything I would be looking at taking a break on the wedding engagement.

Here is the letter his baby mother Aja Metoyer wrote:

 

 "Seems like the Miami Heat has made its appearance on mediatakeout yesterday. So its only right i put Dwayne Wade on blast. First and foremost i'd like to thank ***** Wade, his cousin for booking my numerous of flights.

 Ohh yea, hi Ms. Union. Good too see you stuck around and have a few more pieces of clothing inside of his house. The kitchen looks great by the way. I love the new counter tops. I would also like to thank Rich, the chef for his amazing breakfast. His cookies are the best.

 And last but not least I'd like to thank Dwayne for always making me feel comfortable on your side of the bed. Hiding pictures in your drawer. You know the night stand next to your side of the bed, the one with the two drawers. Think the picture is the one with you and Sanaa Lathan in it.

 Also Gabrielle you are a little to old to be making Valentines day Photo albums. Leave that to the young girls your man cheats on you with. Dont believe me, i took a picture of the picture.

FYI your man likes fat a**es you might need to get you one. Last but not least. I will send you a picture of the bags your man left in the hotel room i f*cked him in. lol"

 

 

 

I would definitely have to hold my head up high behind something like that & honestly, I applaud Ms. Union for keeping her composure behind all of this because most women would be looking at ways to attack the female. Really what can you do when an extra life has been created who has nothing to do with it? I wonder just what this young lady, Aja's motives are for Dwayne Wade & Gabrielle Union? Is she trying to destroy their relationship so she can hopefully have him for herself? See females will go to any extent to destroy a relationship but in this case, you can't look entirely at her because it was his actions. She is simply a hurt young woman crying out for some much needed attention. We sit it everyday, women who can't have the man so they create ways to destroy things with the woman he already has which is just ignorant and desperate.

 

They say that true love conquers all things so let's see how these two lovers conquer this. They haven't even said I do yet...those vows are truly going to have to mean a lot when she admits that she will love him through the good and the bad, because this here is definitely the bad and if she can conquer this now, then maybe Gabrielle can conquer extra baggage that may occur every time they split up or fall on hard times.

 

 

                                     Is he worth the headache though?

 Let me hear your thoughts on this!

 

 

 

 

 

The Ever So Handsome: Lance Gross

Who doesn't know Lance Gross???  He is among one of the hottest young black celebrities in Hollywood doing his thing, from acting in television shows, movies, and music videos. Some of you know him from Tyler Perry's hit television series, House of Payne, upon which he plays Calvin. But who can't help but notice him for his charming smile, amazing looks & let us not forget his roles that reach us on that level where we can connect with his character.

You just can't dodge his smile & we know the ladies love a chocolate good looking man. He is ever so talented and has climbed the charts in the industry with his acting skills. Just a brief background on him,  Lance Gross born July 8, 1981 in Oakland, CA is doing very well at the age of only 32. Lance Gross attended Howard University where he obtained a Bachelor of Arts in theater and then trained at The Ivanna Chubbuck Studio as well as the Tasha Smith Acting Studio. He also gave up his track skills to pursue his dream of acting and we also have seen on Twitter where he likes to do a little photography on the side.

We have seen this handsome face in a few of Tyler Peryy's movies to include, Meet the Browns, the TV Series House of Payne and Temptation. He has also played in movies like The Last Fall where he plays a pro football player who returns home after his contract ends. He has played in Our Family Wedding along side another great actor Forrest Whitaker.

 

 

 

I must say though that my favorite movie this year was Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor by Tyler Perry featuring Lance Gross, who played the loving but yet easy going husband, Brice who is married to Jurnee Smollett-Bell (Judith)....the movie is about an ambitious married woman's temptation by a handsome billionaire which leads to betrayal, recklessness, and changes her entire life forever.

 

 

His role in this movie really helped society for the first time see things from the opposite side of the fence so to say. We always see men in the movies dogging the women out but finally we were able to hear the cries of the men. Finally we were able to see a guy who loves his wife, grew up in the church and was willing to go into the night club to save his wife because he loved her. Even after being rejected he still went into the guy's house to rescue her. I truly enjoyed this movie & it was inspirational to me because it taught me that you should always appreciate what you have even if its not major like you desire. Lance Gross played an awesome role & he really made you feel his character to the point that while he was crying; you shed tears to because of what was happening to him.
This guy is a magnificent young talented brother going places & I truly hope that he continues to impress us & leave us in awe with every movie scene.

 

If you haven't kept up with his movies then you definitely are missing out on talent at it's Best!

 

 

Keep your eyes open because I truly believe this young man is about to continue to heat up the movie screens...he can play the guitar for me any day! (Temptation)

Why Am I Still Single?...When I have so much to Offer

 

 

So the question that Single Women are continuing to ask is, "Why am I Single, when I have so much to offer?"
Many women have been forced by society to get out and make some form of living for themselves until Mr. Right comes along to sweep her off of her hard working feet.  These women have been taught by mother, grandmother and father that a man wants a woman with something to offer him, in other words don't just come to the table with your looks. They have been taught that looks are not everything and that men want smart women rather than just a beautiful doll walking beside him.

However despite what they have been taught, this is not always the actuality of what they are seeing  take place around them in the communities where they dwell and neither in media which continues to showcase women getting married who have nothing special going on for themselves. These women have worked hard to live up to the stature that society has taught them that they should be from the time they were little girls, so what is wrong? Why are they having hard times with the men?

I took time to ask a few men for their thoughts as to why women with BA's, MD's & even PHD's are still unmarried? Here were their thoughts:

 

AD:  “Some men don't want a woman who is smarter and makes more money because those men  feel they can't love a woman and support her if she makes more than them.”

CA:  "Because most men don’t like women who are smarter than they are….they want a woman to bring something to the table….she can bring money to the table as long as she not smarter…its because of the male ego not wanting the woman to appear better than them…..a weak man is scared of competition, they weak minded in finances, mentally, and physically….they just weak minded….a strong minded man will try to show her that the money does not matter as long as I love you, what you make, we are one and we make it together….they show her how to build each other up and invest for their greatness because they are one & not separate".

 RH: "I feel that you have some guys who want to be the head... If their woman has all that going on, say for example…he is the underdog of the relationship…he is going to feel some type of way about that. Some guys could care less, but my bet is that most do care and would feel his woman wears the pants and is the head of the relationship and he feels like he is the tail".

RK:  "They are way to career oriented and the average female who goes through all of that, don’t have no time for no extra stuff, they are just focus on they careers and I feel that in order to gain, you have to lose some things….they trade their relationship life for their business life.  The average female making all that money feels like they don’t need a man".

still unmarried:

All men desire to feel needed in a relationship and these guys coming from diverse back grounds and all different ages were able to share thoughts that turned out to be similar....all saying one thing...men want to feel needed in your life. Its great to obtain all those things but you also have to remember that at some point in your life, the man you love wants to know that he means something to you, he wants to know that your career is not entirely more important than he is. Maybe it is just an ego thing, maybe this is just an issue among weak minded men, but I feel all men deserve to be the head in your life and he should not be put beneath you because he was built and crafted to lead.

I Corinthians 11:3..."But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man....

Never be so caught up in your career that you feel that you simply do not need a man, I think this has become a strong signal that women are tossing out to men. When songs promoting "Independence" for women started hitting the radios for women, a lot were pushed right into the motive of becoming exactly like what these singers such as Beyoncé, Neyo, Jamie Fox and even rappers like Webbie and Boosie had told them was the type of woman a man needed. They never told you that it could lead to relationship issues, because soon as the guy feels he is not needed because you can handle your own, now he feels there is no room for him in your life. Selfish it seems...but not entirely because we all want to feel needed.

 

Pay attention to the signals that you are giving off to men, be sure it is not the, "I don't need you & I can do it by myself signal". These bad signals can send a man in the opposite direction. No matter how beautiful or smart you are, he will only hang around for a season until he finds a woman he feels will consider him of more value to them.

 

We know women that you are toggling it all, work & family...but believe me there is someone specially designed for you who wants to be the head in your life and not only to act as a ruler over you but to walk beside you as your king and you as his queen. It's okay to let him be the man in your life. We all have been there, so use to doing everything for yourself that when he comes along, you are to busy showing him all that you have going rather than showing him that he has a place in your life and in your heart. Its okay to let your hair down and take off those heels...let him guide you and hold you up, and together you both can build a dynasty.

 

Many of you have been praying to God for that man to come along in your life who will love you & accept you for who you are. One who will appreciate what you have to offer him but ladies when he comes, you have to allow him the chance to show you what he has to offer you and why he is a great meaning to your life. Be open eyed to what God has been placing on your path. Many times he has sent guys our way but we have pushed or ran them off because of our pride. Humble yourself.  Its hard to see what is on your path when you are not focus.


Books like Act like a Lady but Think like a Man by the comedian Steve Harvey have possibly confused many women about how to pursue men.

Women have been told that this is

how a man thinks and you need to start thinking like a man to be able to get a man....but honestly God never designed you to think like a man, he designed you to be and think like a woman. When this book hit the shelves, single & even married women ran to the shelves to include myself in hope to find out the secret to getting a man. We were like kids on Christmas day ready to unwrap the secret to what we finally felt we needed to know. The catch was that the book only gives a brief insight as to how some men think and operate, not all men so women were still desperately lost & single. Then guys had purchased the book also to see what male secrets had been revealed to the women, probably only to laugh at those who attempted those endeavors.

One huge mess I tell you that led the way to more drama and games with women trying to live out the things mentioned in the book.

Somewhere ladies you have to find balance for the things you truly want in life. If your desire is to be married then make it top priority in your life and let everything else fall into place behind it. A man who truly loves you will value you for more than just how much money you make. You don't have to be the richest woman alive with multiple degrees just to catch the heart of a man. You don't have to drive the best luxury vehicle or live in the largest house to grasp his attention. Simply be you and he will adore you for that. You don't have to make those the first topics of the conversation with him either unless he asks for the information.
Love has possibly knocked at your door many times but you have put up the "I don't need a Man sign" so he went to the next door.

Do not blame the next female, simply ask what signs am I giving off to men when they see me?
Use this time to improve, allow 2014 to be the year that you find love. Many times God answers our prayers but we ignore the answers that he gives us & we pay no attention to that man who hangs ever so close to us but we keep him in the "friend" zone.

Love Awaits you, its not about lowering your standards to obtain a man....it's about not allowing your expectations to cause you to miss out on the man God designed for you. See we busy giving out orders to God about what we want in a man....but he already knows what you need and has already prepared a guy for you.

You are only as  Single as You allow Yourself to be.
Don't keep getting in your own way!

I Worship You (+playlist)

We Got Something Real....Love???

Are people still falling in love or is it all just a circle of games now?

I've been doing a lot of observing and it seems like in my local area, Mobile, Alabama, not too many people in the African American community are getting married, or involved in monogomous relationships. It seems that its more mind games going on than their are serious committments.

The crazy thing is what ever happened to just falling in love and being happy with the person you are with?

You will always see someone who may look better than what you have, but when you are truly in love and you have found your....what's the word?  Soulmate! Seems like that word has almost went extinct, yet barely standing. It seems to me that a lot of people are happy with being involved with multiple people at a time rather than just being happy with one person.

It seems to be a horrible trend but then again I am only 29 and still growing and learning, maybe my age group is still maturing and maybe the men here are not yet in that "got it together" stage where they are ready to commit long term to one person.

Yet does age truly matter? Some are committing as early as 21, and some who are in their late 30s are still playing around here. Again its almost as if it was a bad trend inspired by music to keep people more involved with sexual relationships rather than lifetime committments.

Society tells us that you shouldn't express all of your feelings to one person, even if you feel as if it maybe love at first sight. You are trained to hold it all in and play mind games so that you do not appear to be crazy or desperate. you are trained to not call as soon as you get the number but to wait a day or two so that again you do not appear overly excited or desperate.

Why does all of this matter?
Why do you have to pretend to be someone that you are not?

Society say sthat this is a way of protecting your heart from a person that may not be as genuine as you. I feel that if two people are pretending to feel the opposite of their true feelings then neither party is being genuine.

I say that if it feels genuine and you both feel like your light on your toes and heaven is shining its rays around you when you are together then go for it! Who cares what others think and who cares if it seems to soon. You only live life once, so why go through life playing games and wondering if things would have worked out better with a person if you had not been holding your feelings in.

You can't depend on the advoice of others when it comes to matters of the heart, because no two people think or feel the same. be your own judge and do what makes you happ!

In other countries, love is blossoming and people are getting married whether they have known each other for a few weeks or few months, they are living longer, they are experiencing less divorces because they are content with their soulmate, and life is breezy.

So start today by making a promise to commit to being you and no one else but you.
Commit to your true feelings and your going to be alright, don't let your friends or family cause you to miss out on the best thing because you want to uphold an image and impress them.

This just may eliminate all the mind control games, and the battle of the sexes...I guess, and just maybe people can get back to love and eliminate the stress of trying to share their love with multiple people.

Update: Personal View on my last Blog: What is a Marriage

Remember that a lot of things written in the old testament, God did away with the old law. So let remind you we are now under God's grace. If we followed the old law then a lot of people would be done away with. So if you divorced because your spouse was abusive then that is a just cause, I am only speaking of those divorcing for things that are not justly. I dont want people feeling doomed if they divorced because he\she was abusive....which is a reason outside of adultery.

What is a Marriage?

 
What is a Marriage? Many of us have our own view of what a marriage is and these views can go on for days because no two people think the same. However it is good to have a mutual understanding from both individuals what it means to be married before you say I do.



Many couples who are engaged do not go through church counseling before they get married and this can be a great problem in their marriage because often times they do not fully understand what it means to be married and how great of a committment they are making because this is not just a vow before eachother and others but also a vow made before God. When I thought about what marriage is to me, I thought of it as a union & friendship between two individuals who love eachother and are willing to go through life together, forever til death parts them, in oneness. Many marriages today end in divorce because people have gotten away from their vows and more importantly away from Gods law of marriage. People divorce now for any reason they can think of and the law of the land allows it. Some divorce because of abuse, incompatibility, or the fact they can't agree on anything, some divorce because of financial issues, some because they simply just want to do their own thing and the marriage serves them no purpose anymore. People have to think before they get married and all this begans in the dating stage. You must ask questions before you decide on spending your life with this person because once you say those vows before God...thats it.

One common mistake people make before getting married is: 1. Thinking you can change your mate! Some think that once we say I do, this person will instantly transform into the perfect mate for me. If he/she was a cheater, abusive, or a liar before you got married, what makes you think that saying words and signing a piece of paper will change them. Then you end up in divorce court debating about something you already knew existed. Who can you blame? No one but yourself. Marriage is also not a 50/50 deal....it is given 100% from both individuals.

You dont have do anything in a marriage because you are no longer two but one. When you are married, no one comes before your household....this means not mother, not father, no one comes before your household. People divorce because the man or the woman keeps putting relatives before their household. Always consult your husband or wife before you make a decision whether it be financially or whatever....you guys are now one, so you do not make decisions seperately. We cant be selfish when in a marriage. Society has made it where people feel its ALL ABOUT ME! Nobody else matters, my needs are the only things that matter but not so in a marriage. You have to consider the needs of your husband or wife also. It is about a give and take. Another thing to remember is, do not marry only because the person makes you happy! In marriage, you will have good days and bad days so if the only reason you are in the marriage is because you want to be happy, then what will you do when sad days come, when rough days come, when temptation comes....marriage is work!


What is God's law on divorce??? I will not write out the entire scripture but you can find that in Matthew 19: 1-11. A brief summary is that what man feels is a good enough reason to divorce and remarry is not what Gods plan is. Again as I stated earlier, we divorce for many reasons and according to the word of God...you should only divorce if your husband or wife committs adultery or fornicates. I didnt say it, the word says it, so you cant argue with the word and if you do, then hey that is between you & God. What is Fornication? It is any sexual activity with anyone or anything before marriage. What is Adultery? It is any sexual activity with anyone or anything during marriage. Do you know that a lot of people have divorced and re-married and they had no decent cause...by means, it was not lined up with what God saw fit as a reason to divorce. In other words you re-married and it was not approved by God.



As you read the scripture verses provided above, you understand that if someone marries a person who divorced from his spouse for any reason besides adultery then they are also committing adultery & fornicating. So you see, marriage is very serious, very sacred unto God. So when you choose to get married, you have to ask yourself...Am I really in this for the long run & do I love this person so much that no matter what we face, I am going to hang in there til death do us part. Im not going to seperate because they dont take out the trash, they dont do my laundry right, they dont cook right, they gained weight, they cut their hair different, my parents dont like them, my children dont like them, I lost my job or they lost their job, they dont have an education....GET AWAY from all these unneccessary excuses that can be WORKED OUT!



How do you work it out? By prayer, by allowing God to bring the change that is needed to make your marriage work! Do not get married for the wrong reasons! People get married for looks, financial stability, children etc...but if you know those are the only reasons you married then you are in for a rocky road. Looks can change, Money can change...all those reasons are materialistic! The choices that we make can affect us in our eternal destiny. The Lord not only holds us responsible for what we know, but for what we have the ability to learn. He said that my people perish for lack of knowledge. [ Hosea 4:6] So is it your desire to satisfy the law of mankind or God's law?

 

 

Think about what marriage means to God, and compare it to what it means to you...I should hope you share a mutual view. Remember that when we don what is pleasing to God...blessings come from it. The greatest blessing can come also by God seeing two individuals who love eachother so dearly that no matter what...they are willing to fight to stay together.



See society will give you all the reasons to seperate but very few will teach you on why you should make it work. This is how we get to see people who have been married for over 25 years & more...because they were willing to work for their love! You have the opportunity to ask some deep questions before you walk down the aisle & at that moment you can say yes or no to being with this person for life til death parts you or they commit adultery or fornication.




There is no such thing as common law marriage before God....if you love eachother enough, go ahead and make it official. If you have been in a relationship for 3 years plus and you love eachother, go ahead and get married, there isnt much you will discover by continuing to wait...go ahead and do right before God because its a sin to fornicate. Yes, people will come up with all sorts of excuses to continue to sin but its still wrong in God's eye and his word does not change nor come back void.

Think before you say I Do & think before you say I want a Divorce, if they didnt commit those two things above according to God...you should seek counseling & fight for your love, fight to rekindle that love that made you all walk down the aisle.>