I Refuse To Love Your Unchanging Heart!

Too often you are taught to stay when the pain is becoming unbearable!

How many people deal with the confusion of trying to stay with a person who is refusing to change inwardly?

Daily we are asked to remain beside individuals out of love because we are told to accept that people do have flaws. Yet at some point those unchanging flaws can destroy a nation if the person is unwilling to fix the matter.

It's so very hard to love someone that doesn't want to change. I mean you may try with all you have to hang in there and help them see the benefits of changing but if they refuse constantly then its rough streets ahead.

No one deserves to be constantly hurt. 

That's not a sign of love and nobody should make the mistake of saying you don't love them if you refuse to deal with their mess.

There's only so much a person can take when you refuse to change. It's that issue of loving you but refusing to love the part of you that doesn't want to change.

Too many miss out on love from a loyal individual because they are selfish and want you to just accept them as they are.

Where are the rules that state that I have to love you in your mess? Where are the rules that say while you continue to abuse my love, that I should stay beside you?

That's an unfair situation on love and nobody should have to deal with that.

I truly feel that if you find someone who knows what you are dealing with and still wants to remain beside you to work through it....then you should definitely work hard to change whatever behavior it is that is causing pain in your relationship.

The other side of dealing with someone who refuses to change is that it drives you crazy.

Lets add that they will happily say you are crazy because you are getting fed up with their behavior.

Nothing sucks like giving all of your energy towards helping them better themselves inside & out and they kick you in the face! In other words they have no love or remorse for anything that you have done for them. They purposely & intentionally hurt you because they know that you just might never go anywhere.

Ever met someone like that?

A person that lies constantly about changing but then retreats back to that behavior while demanding you respect their ugliness.

Every person on this earth has a breaking point and that is a major deal breaker in a  lot of relationships & marriages.

Nobody has to put up with that. Nobody has to love those unchanging flaws within you.

When you love someone, you change those ugly sides of you. Simply because you want the other person to be happy, and most importantly you desire to be completely happy within.

Don't allow anyone to make you feel like you have to put up with their behavior year after year for the sake of love. 

Let it go and set them free. People who refuse to change for you are not for you. You deserve someone who will willingly change things that can harm your heart and the relationship.